A birthmother's story- Adam's adoption

I am so excited to be able to share Adam's birth mother's story. She is very special to us and words cannot not say how much we love her!


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My name is Diane and this is my Adoption Story.
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The twist to my story is that my son was planned, but certain situations lead you to do things that are unexpected….

My Son’s father and I were all wrong from the beginning, but you know how they say "opposites attract", well that was the story of us…

Adam’s father and I were only dating for a brief time before I got pregnant and even though he really wasn’t ready to be a father, our plan was to keep our baby.
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During the time I was pregnant I fell on very hard times, which forced me to move in with my sister and her four daughters, and anytime too many grown ups are in a house together things tend to fall apart.
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Y and I talked to his mother together when I found out I was pregnant which she really didn’t like (because he was much younger than me) but said she would do everything in her power to support our decision.
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As months passed Y and I really weren’t getting along to well and neither was me and my sister which put me in a stressful situation cause I didn’t have a job and neither did he at the time. I really had no one to fall back on.
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my sister and I ended up having a big fight and she kicked me out of her house. At the time my middle son was with me and we had no where to go and all I could think about was what am I going to do? I have a baby on the way, no money, no job, plus Y had started to deny the baby.
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I was all alone. My father sent me a bus ticket to Florida to come live with him and his family but their living conditions were horrible..... no place for a new born baby. My job search went terrible because NOBODY will hire somebody that’s pregnant and that’s a fact.
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My first thought was abortion (I had already had one years ago) but I was so far along they wanted over a thousand dollars and it was a two day procedure. ..
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Adoption popped in my head and honestly I thought that it would the best and easiest thing in the world but it wasn’t.
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I called a lot of places and people I even thought about giving my baby to a family member just for a couple of months to get on my feet but my family is a trip!
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I finally found Heart to Heart Adoption agency. They talked to me for awhile, got my son and I an apartment in Utah, flew us down and gave me a Social Worker named Stacy.
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I was her last case because she was actually getting a promotion and when I say she was wonderful she was great. I love her so much!
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She was all I had when I had no one.
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Whatever I needed she made sure I had it. She went on vacation with her family and actually came back early because I went into labor and she wanted to be by my side! She was amazing!
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I had looked through about nine different families profiles before I found the one that I fell in love with literally!
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I was kind of nervous when we met, didn’t really know what to except but Angie and Clayton were so nice to me and my son it was like a walk in the park they were hip and cool young people who loved life and each other and I needed that for my baby!
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they were so good together, all that they were missing was a child!
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After our first meeting and dinner I knew they were exactly what I was looking for. From then on out every doctors appointment Angie was there. Her and Clayton were even there at birth and I met their entire immediate family which let me know their family background was solid which was another plus!
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During the delivery I was sick as a dog. I had gone to the hospital prior to this because I was having contractions and they gave me some kind of pain pill and sent me home because they said I wasn’t ready.
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My labor wasn’t really that long but I was very glad and sad it was over.
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Glad because I wasn’t pregnant anymore and the pain was over but sad because I knew that within days I had to give up something that was worth more to me than gold. ...........
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Now Adam was the prettiest baby in the hospital and I’m not just saying it because he was mine! .............
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(1 day old)
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I couldn’t keep the nurses out and they always had some kind of excuse of why they needed him in the nursery I even caught the nurses taking pictures of him! ...........


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when I say he was a beautiful baby he was beautiful OMG…
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The day arrived that I was suppose to sign him over and I cried and cried and cried and cried and I cried did I mention I cried !?!
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My social worker Stacey said to me, “you may not see it now but it’s the best thing for him” and she was right.
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I had no job, I barely had a place to stay, and no matter how bad I wanted to keep him how was it possible?
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He was going home with the best parents in the world.
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we have an open adoption
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They call, I get pictures, and I’ve even heard his voice!
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Every time I see Adam in a photo he is always smiling and he has grown into a beautiful little man which lets me know he is with great people everyday all day.
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I couldn’t have given him a better gift then Angie and Clayton.
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They are absolutely great parents and adoption is a good choice.
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But it does have it’s side effect believe me because there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about my son, not even an hour.
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I always feel like I’m missing something and even though at the moment it was the best thing for him, I just want to be selfish cause I want him back so bad!
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but then I think about and look at his pictures and see his smiles and I realize...
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I may be blood, but he is with his family…
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Clayton and Angie I love you guys dearly!!!!